Some rules are easy, the black and white one. Either I did or I didn’t and it’s very easy to tell the difference. I did take my medicine. Or I did not. Black and White. Other rules are more at his discretion. I was respectful or I was disrespectful. Those types of rules are more difficult to define.
We had a long talk about the rules. Captain picked a few from each area that are 100% in force and I will be 100% accountable for those. We added to my checklists, for which I am now accountable. We will be ‘meeting’ every Sunday evening to check my accountability for those lists. There will always be a spanking…how easy or how hard is up to me and how much of the lists are done/not done. Captain also set some immediately punishable rules. Mostly little things that if they are not done by bedtime, I will receive an immediate spanking with the small cane for. Please note…I HATE short, stinging spankings. This is mostly to get me into good habits rather than continue the bad ones.
I love the accountability. I will thrive on the routine…and that he is checking and caring whether it is done or not. He did throw in a few rules that I didn’t care for…namely exercise three times a week but it can be wii fit or the tread mill, so I have some wiggle room.
Even though I now have new constraints on my behavior, I feel very secure. I feel loved. And looked after. SOMEBODY is going to NOTICE if things are done or not done!!! I think that is the biggest enemy of a homeschooling/stay at home mom…no one really notices if you get messy or sloppy or lazy or play hooky for days at a time. No one notices, no one cares and it is an easy habit to get into. (I realize he *may* have noticed…but if he did, he never said much before)
So while I may end up doing more…I will also feel better. I won’t be stuck in the mire of GUILT over not doing the things I know I should. And when I fail, there will be a reckoning AND closure. There will also be praise and encouragement. All things that will inspire me to do well. And of course…Captain standing over me with a cane is quite inspiring in itself!