Before I approached Captain about bringing ttwd back into our lives again, I spent a couple of days reading. We had tried so many times before, and failed. And our marriage was in terrible shape. We were on the brink of ‘either this gets better or we consider separating’. It was not an easy place to be. Before I talked to the Captain, I did some reading…okay a LOT of reading. I knew that we could not afford to fail again.
I found Mick’s Blog Husbandly Touch (Husbandly Touch). I spent the entire day reading it from first post to last. I appreciated the ‘guys’ point of view. I don’t think I had ever truly realized how hard it is for the husband to step up. I enjoyed reading their journey over the span of a few of years.
I found this post A Letter to the HOH (Letter to HOH). It was everything I wished I knew how to say…but put into ‘guy speak’.
Reading Mick’s Blog totally changed my perception of how to approach Captain…and it has worked so much better this time. For the first time, it feels like ttwd is benefitting us both. Captain has stepped up in ways I never dreamed. And I’ve found a level of respect and submission that I didn’t know was in me.
When Captain started reading, I suggested he start with Husbandly Touch and read it ALL before anything else. And while I am mildly concerned Captain may become as strict and consistent as Mick is, I am also sure that it will benefit both of us…again.
So Thank You so much, Mick, for your writing, your wisdom, and your wonderful sense of humor.