Rule #4 - I will take care of my health and safety

Rule #4 – Health and Safety 

I will take care of my health.  I will take precautions to be safe. 

I will go to bed at a reasonable hour.   

I will maintain and keep updated a migraine diary. 

I will drink at least two bottles of water every day. 

I will exercise at least 3 times per week. 

I will set my alarm every weekday. 

I will limit drinking soda, and must ask permission before drinking one. 

I will take my meds every day. 

I will take vitamins every day. 

I will try to lose at least one pound per week. 

I will keep my cell phone charged at all times.

 

I am sure there's going to be more that Captain adds to this as we go along. 

Rule #3 - Running the House

 I will run the house, not let it run me. 

I will conduct homeschool on a consistent basis.  I will help both kidlets move forward with their education.  And I will remember to have fun times as well as educational times.  I will not burn out myself or the kidlets by trying to do too much.

I will maintain a reasonable state of cleanliness throughout the house.  Especially in the kitchen and bathrooms.  I will delegate (and enforce) chores for the children.  I will continue to use my check lists every day.  I will plan menus for the week.

I will maintain the finances and budget.  I will stick to the budget.  I will not give into impulse buying.  I will plan menus to keep the grocery budget on track.  I will set bills to pay in a timely manner.  I will balance the checkbook at least once a week.

When I get overwhelmed in any of these areas, I will ask for help.  Whether it be chores that need doing or a spanking he needs to give, I will ask for help. 

These are all the “ideals” that I will strive for.  As long as I try and make an honest effort, I am okay.  Captain disciplines more on when I give up or am not trying.  Or if I just choose not to do the things I know I should.  And there’s lots of encouragement, both the verbal and spanking kind.  And he’s just as quick to dish out praise.  Discipline is seldom, but it’s helps just knowing he will, if needed.

Rule #2 - I will control my emotions.

I will handle my emotions without shutting down or shutting Captain out.  I will not clam up and be silent.  I will tell him, in a respectful manner, when I am upset or have hurt feelings. 

I will not let anger or frustration brew until I throw an angry hissy fit or totally shut the whole family out.  I recognize that how I act and feel affects everyone in the house, not just me.

I will be honest about what I am feeling, EVERYTHING I am feeling.  I will communicate with Captain.  When I am having health problems that interfere with my emotions, I will tell him.

When I am worried about something, I will share that with him, and not try to carry it alone.  I will not worry about things that I can’t fix. 

I will be strong and consistent with the kidlets.  I will maintain calm authority over the house while he is at work.  I will consistently move forward with homeschooling.  I will not let the children badger me until I give them what they want.  I will not let the children tag team against me. I will not let them drive me to the point where I throw my hands up in frustration and give up.

I will be a happy, submissive, obedient, communicative wife, secure in Captain’s love for me.  I understand that I am safe with him, protected from attack, especially the ones I wage against myself.  I will rest, content in his shelter, knowing that there isn’t anything stronger than the two of us working together.

Rule #1: Respect

Rule #1 – Respect 

I will show respect to the Captain at all times.  I will listen for his voice.  I will stop what I am doing (if possible) and give his words top priority.  I will not allow the children to interrupt us.   I will not shut down or shut him out when I am upset.  I will not avoid discussions that are difficult.  I will be totally honest, and not tell half-truths or try to divert the conversation.  I will not use tending to the children to get out of a difficult conversation.

I will accept his authority and leadership in all things concerning ttwd.  I will not push or try to manipulate things into happening when I want them too.  I will accept his decisions on when/if  I am to be spanked and/or punished in any way. 

I will use a respectful tone when I am talking to him.  I will not demean or criticize him.  I will not try to change what he says to get him to do things my way.  I am allowed to respectfully disagree with him and state my side.  I will accept his word as final on any/all situations. 

I will obey his commands.  I will meet his expectations.  If I fail, I will confess to him and willingly accept any consequence he deems necessary.